In my previous blog I explained how I had recognised the importance of admitting and dealing healthily with disappointment, especially if deep in our heart we are disappointed with God.
Disappointment is an every present threat, it colours everything if not dealt with in right way. So how can we handle disappointments healthily?
1. Realise we are in a prison.
Building on what I said in the last blog, most Christians find it hard to admit disappointment with God. They cover disappointment with spiritual sounding stuff yet in the Bible we find many people admitting disappointments including John the Baptists and many psalmists.
e.g. Psalm 10v1-2; 22v1-2
My personal favourite is Psalm 13v1-3;
How long, Lord? Will you forget me for ever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
2 How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?
3 Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
4 and my enemy will say, ‘I have overcome him,’
and my foes will rejoice when I fall.
We need to come to God when we are in pain, especially pain that he could have prevented. As these Psalmists have modelled it is healthy to express the doubt of our hearts.
Yet it is not something I have seen happen very often. Something changes when we do.
Each of the Psalms quoted above ends in total clarity as to who God is. See Psalm 10v 16-18; 22v3-5 as well as in Psalm 13
But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.
6 I will sing the Lord’s praise,
for he has been good to me.
So my first suggestion on healthily dealing with disappointment is to be honest – tell a friend; pray; even write your own psalm.
WRITTEN BY TONY THOMPSON
Tony is the leader of Hope Church Luton. He works full time for the church and is married to Anne and they have 2 sons.